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What To Do When Someone You Love is Going Through Cancer

Posted on September 18, 2018 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (0)


What to Do When Someone You Love Is Going Through Cancer Treatment

Sometimes it happens… the words that we never want to hear coming from a loved one’s mouth: “I have cancer.” Cancer is a difficult diagnosis for patients and family members, but early detection and medical advances can successfully treat cancer. There are a variety of treatments that can destroy cancer cells, shrink tumors, stop the cancer from spreading, and send the disease into remission. Cancer treatment brings along a host of side effects, but there are ways to help someone with cancer deal with both.

Help Them Manage the Pain and Symptoms

While there are many different types of cancer treatment available, you probably hear the most about radiation, chemotherapy, and surgery. Side effects from treatments include nausea, fatigue, and pain, in addition to the pain from the cancer itself. As a supporter, you can learn about the treatment and understand what it’s doing to your loved one’s body. Help them eat better and exercise, allow them to rest when they’re tired, or buy them a nice wig or head wrap when their hair starts to fall out. If it’s your spouse who’s experiencing a decreased sex drive, be understanding when he or she isn’t in the mood.

Do Things to Make Their Day-to-Day Life Easier

It can be difficult for a person living with cancer to get out of bed, let alone cook food or take baths. Anything you do to mitigate these tasks could be a huge help to your loved one. Make dinner, do laundry, clean the house, pick up groceries, get the mail, or drive their kids to school. Most importantly, offer to drive them to their appointments. They might need transportation and loving company during this process. If you’re attempting to help and are met with resistance or anger, be patient and understanding. They’re not angry with you; they’re angry at the situation. It’s not easy for them to cope with losing their faculties and having to rely on others for assistance.

Help Them Relax

While cancer is a physical pain, it can also bring mental anguish. A positive mindset can be achieved with meditation. If you live together, create a space in your place for meditation and relaxation. When people are battling cancer, they are under a great deal of stress, and their minds might be overwhelmed with negative thoughts. During these times, it can be difficult to focus on the positive. Meditation and mindfulness can be beneficial in helping them stay in the now and not worry so much about things that are out of their control. According to one study, mindful meditation has positive effects such as improved sleep and energy levels, calmness and well-being, and decreased pain.

Encourage Them to Keep Living

A cancer diagnosis doesn’t mean that life is over, so avoid treating your loved one like he has no life left to live. Patients might experience cancer-related depression, and your encouragement could keep them from giving up on life. Keep inviting them to do things and tag along when they want a buddy. There may be less time now that cancer treatment is part of their schedule, but it’s important to enjoy life. A happy mindset can lead to a healthy body.

Don’t Make It About You

Your loved one probably feels guilty enough for putting you through this, but remember that you’re only experiencing worry and emotional pain from seeing them suffer. The physical pain is real for them, and the prospect of death is real for them. You might feel as though you’re losing something in this battle, but your part in the matter is easier than theirs.

When someone you love has cancer, both of your lives change. Sometimes, all they need is your companionship and support, but your actions can certainly go a long way. Encouraging words might help temporarily, but it’s what you do to make life easier and more manageable that counts the most.

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Posted on June 9, 2018 at 1:35 AM Comments comments (2)

Perhaps you’ve heard that one out of three people in the U.S. will have cancer during their lifetime, but you never thought you’d be one of them. Suddenly, you’ve entered the world of oncology appointments and treatments. As if this isn’t taxing enough, it feels like everyone from your hairstylist to your sister’s Facebook friends are offering advice (or wanting to sell you essential oils and vitamins!). While knowledge is power, the profusion of opinions can sometimes feel overwhelming. So what’s a person to do? Self-care is essential, and here are nine strategies to help:

Be true to yourself. For some, support groups are key; for others, they feel annoying. Some want to be surrounded by loved ones, while others need space and privacy. If phone calls and texts are wearing you out, try sending a weekly update -- or not. You choose when you want to talk about your cancer and with whom.

As cliché as it sounds, a positive attitude is everything right now. Kevin P. Ryan, M.D., award-winning author and clinical full professor at U.C. Davis School of Medicine, states, “Your survival depends on a positive attitude.” A positive mindset begins with positive self-talk. Seek out positive activities and set positive goals for yourself.

Buy a notebook and always keep it with you. It’s helpful to have everything written down in one place, like what your oncologist said at your last appointment or the name of a soothing tea you just read about. Jot down questions that come to you in the middle of the night, quotes that inspire you, or little reminders. Sure, there are apps for this, but when you’re feeling off your game, there’s nothing like a simple paper notebook.

Find ways to manage your stress. Relaxation exercises, bubble baths, hypnosis, guided imagery, yoga -- find activities that bring your stress level down, and do them.

Take a walk on the alternative side: Try acupuncture, aromatherapy, massage, or whatever interests you. Acupuncture, for example, has been shown to help ease nausea and relieve some types of cancer-related pain. Of course, you should always consult your doctor before trying any new modality.

While there will be days you won’t feel like getting out of bed, you will feel better if you don’t neglect your appearance. Look Good Feel Better has programs for women and men who are dealing with cancer.

Say YES when people offer to help you. Don’t even think about saying no if people offer to bring you meals, help with laundry, run errands, or clean your oven. (Actually, if someone offers to clean your oven, go ahead and say yes to whatever they offer!)

Explore your spiritual side. According to research published in a journal of the American Cancer Society, spiritual well-being was associated with less anxiety, depression, and distress. Spirituality includes whatever gives you a state of peace or spiritual connection. Some practices are prayer, meditation, worship, or simply spending time in nature or assisting others.

Opioid painkillers are often part of cancer treatment. Because opioids may give a feeling of euphoria in addition to pain relief, you could find yourself in a battle between pain management and dependency or addiction. This is why you need to be honest with your physician. Even if you’ve never had a problem with drugs or alcohol, you need to tell your doctor if any of your family members have. There is a strong link between genetics and addiction, and your doctor can provide you with the safest treatments based on your individual needs. Only take medication as directed, and familiarize yourself with the warning signs of dependency. Let your doctor know immediately if you feel you may be developing a problem.

Whether you’re newly diagnosed with cancer or are in the final stages of treatment, there is hope. According to new research, your chances of living a full life after cancer are better now than ever been before. As you navigate through this new world, give yourself permission to do things your way while using strategies of radical self-care. You may find yourself with some new habits, greater health, and maybe even a clean oven!


Scott Sanders

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Navigating Your Path To Wellness

Posted on September 11, 2017 at 10:05 PM Comments comments (0)

It's estimated that 51 million Americans adults discuss massage therapy with their healthcare provider.  Considering 20 years ago massage for cancer patients was catagorically judged unwise for the fear that it would spread the cancer.  However recent  studies prove different.  Similarily researchers now feel that patients with any chronic medical condition can benefit.  Every week I will introduce 1 of the TOP five conditions that massage therapy can help with the road to recovery.


The most common form of arthritis.  It's a chronic disease that effects the joints.  More than 30 million Americans have some form of this disease to some  degree.  OA occures when the protective cartilige on the ends pf your bones wear down.  The ones  most effected are the hands, spine, knee, and hip joints. The symptoms include pain and stiffness, swelling and decreased range of motion.  Study shows that a 60 minute massage performed once a week for pain was both optimal and practical.  Massage has shown significant improvements in pain and funtion of affected jpints


Posted on April 10, 2017 at 9:15 PM Comments comments (0)

If you are not extremely busy in today's society, you are the exeption and not the rule.  We are all in high gear; we overextend, over achieve and over stress ourselves to the point of breaking.  This can have a lasting negative effects on our health! Here are a few ways to break the cycle: 


It is so easy to be upset when things do no go our way.  From the moment we spill our coffee, lock our keys in the car, and forget our lunch, a spiral of circumstances can set us off into a tailspin of negativity.

We can choose to stay in a state of discontent and let that dictate our day, or we can be grateful for the other things in our lives even if they are not present in front of us right now.

Did you ever notice that when something nice happens, we tend to smile for a moment and then move on? However, when something goes wrong, we feel the need to tell everyone and anyone that will listen.  It is in those exact moments that we need to focus on what we are grateful for, that is how we can instantly change our perspective and attitude.  Keeping the focus on grattitude offers your mind something to smile about, regardless of outside circumstances.  Focusing on people, places, and even things that make your grateful, gives your mind a break from stress!


Being in the moment has become a cliche: however, if you really take the time to focus on what it means, you can start to practice quieting your mind.  Focus on what you are doing at the exact moment you are doing it.  If you are washing a dish, focus on the water, the soap bubbles and the dish in your hand.  When you take the time to do this, you will be in the moment and not two days from now when something big scheduled.


Everyone has a bsuy schedule: that is a fact.  We all tend to create schedules are overflowing and then complain that we do not have time for ourselves!  Take a good hard look at your schedule and see what you can delete and what you can delegate.  If you are going to have a healthy mind, you need to take care of it as your body, and that means giving it a rest.

One tip for quieting your mind is to put it on your schedule.  Put it in big red pen on your calendar, text yourself a reminder, and place it on your list of things to do this week.  Take time for you.


Posted on March 23, 2016 at 2:15 PM Comments comments (0)

 Hello my name is Deanna Putts and this is my guide to eating healthy.  I have struggled with weight issues since I decided to get on birth control back in my 20's and have struggled ever since.  Even back then I wondered if it was a hormonal issue or not but not having children was more of an issue to me than my weight. After all I had a loving boyfriend at the time who didn't care.  Over the years I got bigger and bigger and bigger and just like many of you have tried just about every diet out there.  I could put all my heart into it, completely follow the rules of whatever the diet was at the time and then about two weeks later give in and go back to the same routine.   Believe it or not at this time in my life I was making bad choices including getting involved in drugs and being homeless. Even though I struggled financially and obviouisly had no money for food I still maintained the weight.  Strange thing huh?  I was able to pull myself out of that situation and started working on becoming a better person.  I got married and had a child, but I never could get back to the weight I was when I was is high school so I gave up.

Over the years I started to notice that people half my age where sicker on the whole and had diseases like cancer and diabetes and thought to myself how can this be?  That is when I really started looking into nutrition and how it played a role in our lives.  That's when I realized that this younger generation didn't come from a time when growing food and eating healthy was an option.  I grew up in the 70's and 80's and back then especially in the 70's it was just the way of life.  If you were poor you grew your own vegetables, and they were affordable in the grocery stores, and not as bio engineered as they are today.  That's when it clicked for me, but I do admit it's hard to eat healthy when you have a limited budget and your child only wants to eat KRAFT macaroni and cheese, and you really don't have the time to make anything else.   Well I am turning 50  next month and proud of where I am, but I want to keep kickin till I'm 100 and so I need to make some changes.  We all have different stories but the thing we all have in common is the need to eat a healthier diet, and enjoying the life that we have. Whether it's for weight management or illness.  In the days to come I will be sharing insights into how we all can take small steps to make better choices, I hope the you find the information funny and informative we are all in this together.  GO TEAM...